FOSTER AND KIN FAMILIES

I just wanted to send out a reminder that some agencies do provide a clothing allowance for foster and kinship kids.
You need to ask your Case Worker / Social Worker what the stipulations are for receiving this with the kids you have.
In our county we get one payment allowance per year, I always try and get it around the time school starts to help with shopping.

It might not be much, but all helps out.

For those in Ventura County, the Ventura County Foster Parent Association (www.vcfpa.com) has a clothing store for foster families to use to supplement their kids clothing. They also have a large supply of new books for all ages.

PET PEEVES - A spin on Water, Ice and Moms

Not to beat some dead horses, but here it goes anyways ....

Recently an SMA family posted about the #ALSICEBUCKETCHALLENGE and the connection with SMA. The SMA family wants to thank ALS for opening the door so we can now bombarde you with information on our kids.
We all know that this is a great fundraiser and will be in awe of it for years to come. Let's all hope that the monies will benefit cousin diseases such as SMA which is the largest killer of children under the age of 2. So they have raised millions of dollars and if you want to consider sharing, then please ask me what SMA research would benefit from your dollars and Ice!
Now, this peeve is for us in the Southwestern USA, California and areas short of water, just imagine if all of those in the midwest and east would ship this ice and water to the western states we could refill our water reservoirs and lakes and save our grass, trees, and shower more than twice a week ...

The morals to these peeves are save your water and send your money to an SMA friendly research project!

Pet Peeve # 2 .....
Still concerning Facebook and many posts are addressed to Moms, now as a man don't get me wrong moms are great ! BUT ladies, there are men on a lot of these groups that could offer a lot of information to your questions.

The moral to this peeve is open your questions to all of us!

Pet Peeve # 3 ....

This one I'll throw in as a closer is the use of abbreviations and shortening of words. The age of texting started this with a limit of words to 160 when texting started, people abbreviated words. Texting is now wide open and able to write full and complete sentences. OR, maybe schools haven't taught everyone how to spell yet?

The moral of this peeve is that Shakespeare made up words in all of his writings, when you achieve his status of writing then you can use strange words such as he did .....

Now What Say Ye? 

A Simple Introspection: IT'S NOT FAIR – WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN?

A Simple Introspection: IT'S NOT FAIR – WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN?: IT'S NOT FAIR – WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN? It's probably the oldest question in the history of human thought.  It's sure...

A Simple Introspection: WHAT IS YOUR SHOCK AND AWE?

A Simple Introspection: WHAT IS YOUR SHOCK AND AWE?: August is SMA awareness month.   Do you know that it is very hard to unknow something that you have learned?  So please take a few minute...

WHAT IS YOUR SHOCK AND AWE?

August is SMA awareness month. 

Do you know that it is very hard to unknow something that you have learned? 
So please take a few minutes to get to know something about SMA. 
Do you pay attention to viral internet causes? Do you know about the Ice Bucket yet?
This has been a great public awareness campaign and fund raiser for ALS. 

This is a great example of guerilla marketing. But there is more, here is the rest of the story. Thanks ALS for awaking the sleeping giant from your kissing cousin SMA!

• DID YOU KNOW that the purpose of the ice is to show you how the body is shocked when ALS takes over.
• DID YOU KNOW that SMA is the little people version of ALS? 
• DID YOU KNOW THAT SMA affects 1 in 6000 kids everyday.
• DID YOU KNOW that our Lil Darling has SMA? She "inherited" this dreaded disease from her parents who didn't know they were carriers, they walked out of her life and now we are honored to have her in our forever family.
• DID YOU KNOW that most families struggle hourly with the medical challenges of raising a child with a dreaded neuromuscular disease that is slowly killing them. Some sooner than later.
• DID YOU KNOW that SMA is very similar to ALS? Check out this chart attached 
• DID YOU KNOW that all the little kids battling SMA don't understand the genetics of how they have been given this dreaded disease? 
• DID YOU KNOW that some of our kids think that feeding tubes are normal, along with ventilators, braces and wheelchairs?
• DID YOU KNOW that there are hundreds of thousand of carriers that could be tested to see if they have SMA. For information visit www.gettyowl.org
• DID YOU KNOW that science is very close to finding out how modern technology can help our SMA kids live life better or even help prevent this dreaded disease? 
• CAN YOU IMAGINE our little girl getting to WALK - that is all she wants 2 steps she says.
• CAN YOU IMAGINE SMA kids with no wheelchairs, no ventilators, no therapies and talking?. There is an organization that is helping raise funds for our kids to be "normal" from talking to using their fine motor skills. This organization runs so someday our kids will run. Check out www.thegsf.org

SO WHAT CAN YOU DO? 

• EVERY MINUTE is valuable so please take a minute to learn and tell others about SMA. Check out www.curesma.org
• EVERY MINUTE there is a new condition discovered with modern technology. There are plenty of conditions and orphan diseases that need publicity - choose your favorite and make people aware!

EVERY MINUTE SMA will SHOCK a new family. 

Now that you know the rest of the story what will you do?

WHAT WAS YOUR SHOCK? AND WHAT WILL YOUR AWE BE?

You may not have any SHOCK now, so please find time to show your AWE and help a family.

IT'S NOT FAIR – WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN?

IT'S NOT FAIR – WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN?

It's probably the oldest question in the history of human thought. It's surely the most disturbing, the most frequently asked and the least satisfactorily answered: Why,  do bad things happen?

How do we manage the frustration, anger, helplessness and all the other emotions that flood in when this happens? I never saw one class in school with a title “Dealing with Terminally Ill Children, Parents, Orphan Diseases and Other Unknown Maladies.”

• Is it different looking in or being in the situation?
• Is it different for the doctor than the family?

Yes it is, but why?

Everyday of every week of every year we hear the news on radio and television, we read the news in the paper and we are crammed the news on our social accounts and our internet pages. 

Most of these new feeds are of the bad nature - cause we want to read it! 

We will look at the warm fuzzy news, but we are drawn to the bad.

Everyday of every week of every month there is an awareness day. 

From cancer to autism to energy to child hair loss we are made aware of something new to us, this isn't fair that we have to suffer through these conditions to feel good. 

There is an “official” site ( Chase Calendar of events) -( http://www.mhprofessional.com/templates/chases/special-months.php) for listing awareness days and months. There are som many events, days, weeks and months for all types of activities that seek our attention.

I checked out the site and couldn't find one condition one of my children have - panhypopituitarism. There has been so much advancement in diagnosing this disorder in the past 19 years - I'm just happy that these kids are thriving and are survivors.

Today as I scribe this note I am aware of the good, the bad and the ugly news from around the planet earth. Our family has fostered children that really makes us wonder WHY? From the homeless child to the ones with life threatening diseases and disorders to those whose lives have been taken too soon. 

Today only a few know that we are halfway through a month I knew nothing about 3 years ago. As we brought a beautiful little two year old into our home we had no idea we would be in the middle of Spinal Muscular Awareness month.

The message today is not about SMA awareness month, foster care, syndromes and orphan diseases, childhood cancer month or Juvenile Diabetes month. 

One part of the message today is the question why are innocent children brought into this world and then suffer unbearable conditions that not even some adults can pronounce let alone comprehend. Why are parents left childless - the worse grief anyone can bear. All grief is natural and normal and causes us to examine the relationship and discover that there were things we wish we had ended - differently or better. 

So this blog is questioning why do bad things happen?

If you believe in God, you will have one belief of why. I've found that when most God fearing people ask the question there is a hidden personal pronoun in it asking 'why did God let these things happen to people?' This is an accusation we bring to God, sometimes it is asked out of questioning why we are experiencing a life changing event in our live or in our world.

If you believe in evolution there are other opinions you may believe, but the question is when tragedy strikes, how do we handle it? And who do we blame? When innocent people undergo medical maladies, horrific disasters or when children are hurt or killed, these become particularly challenging times and tests our belief in a caring and just existence.
Every hour of every day a new tear is shed as something horrific happens on planet earth. 

Where are the blessings? 

We do not know why bad things happen to good people. As parents, children of aging parents, as tenants of this earth we can remember that underneath dark clouds the sun is still shining. We all must stop to look for the good to come out of a bad situation. 

So what good comes from a child dying at three or when a elderly family member passes at sixty, or one hundred?

Do these tragedies cause you to reexamine your life? 

• Have you taken time to reevaluate your life? 
• How do you feel and handle when you hear about a family member who is sick? 

We can redeem these tragedies from meaninglessness by imposing our meaning on them.

• What about when you read about a “friend” on social media? 
• Was it easier to once a week to pick up the newspaper and read the obituary page?
• What should our response be to innocent suffering for which there is no good purpose?

Above all should we realize that “bad things that happen to us in our lives do not have a meaning when they happen to us. They do not happen for any good reason….”  However, we can give them a meaning. 

Everyone asks the question:  "Why, do bad things happen?" 

The philosophers, theologians, butchers, bakers and candlestick-makers - No one really answers it.